In April, 2019 I graduated as a Master Practitioner of Transformational NLP. I had spent over a year learning how to create change without will power. Each time we gathered in our intensive weekends we would learn the tools of NLP Marin by practicing on each other. As the weeks turned to months I found myself becoming capable of attaining the things that I desired and changing the patterns and behaviors that stood in the way. I also was not crashing or becoming debilitated in ways I had in the years I had spent in spiritual growth, therapy and ceremonies

Instead I was able to face challenges that had felt insurmountable in the past. One of the most significant effects of NLP happened during a wedding weekend when I was in a house for 3 days with 20 people including estranged family members. In the past encounters with these people had left me reeling for months as I felt depressed and a lack of belonging. In the weeks leading up to the weekend I spent NLP study sessions revising my desires for that weekend so that my goals were attainable and reliant on myself (not others).  I explored compassion for these family members and envisioned the best possible outcomes that included a sense of belonging and joy. By the end of the wedding weekend I felt proud of my path in this world and this brought a deep sense of joy and helped me immerse myself in the celebration.

All of this occurred with more ease and grace than I had ever experienced in change work and so the question is how can we change without efforting?

Michelle Masters, a teacher of mine from NLP Marin explains it beautifully in an interview she did for libsyn podcasts. Below are some nuggets I am paraphrasing from her:

NLP Marin revises unconscious maps and unconscious patterns and behaviors so you don’t have to try to be different because when you try it’s honestly too difficult. 

It is like software revision- it takes some knowledge not will power.

People don’t have to try to be different, they don’t need to shame themselves into action

It’s the unconscious stuff that’s in the way

When you try to override the patterning it’s like when the doctor hits your knee and you tell your knee not to move.

The reason we don’t have what we want is not because we are undeserving. 

Simply revise it with just a different pattern. It’s hardware.

People don’t need to be told how to live

They need help getting what’s in the way out of the way

They have everything within them to have the lives they want

People just need to be moving towards what lights them up.

This is why it excites me to do NLP sessions. If you have any interest in moving towards what you desire in an effortless way check out my NLP page and set a time for a free consultation.